This month we want to share helpful links. After losing your child/ren what are some websites that have helped you? Where is your safe haven on the internet? How has it helped you? Please feel welcome to share as many links as you wish in a comment below.
Carly:
The first place I think I ever found on the internet was The MISS Foundation. This place was incredible to me. I. Wasn't. Alone. And all those months I thought I was. I signed up to the MISS Foundation so that I could take part in their private forums. What a blessing they were to me. I have made some very close friends there.
Another site that I think is so fantastic is Lost and Found. If you are looking for others who are walking in your shoes whether its pregnancy after loss, infertility or just life after loss you can find these people in the Lost and Found blogroll. What an incredible place.
Sally and Sophie:
Glow in the Woods
If you are a bereaved parent with a blog or website this place is for you. We would like to invite anyone who has lost a baby from conception onwards to the garden.
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Visit The Sunset Memorial Gallery
......... And there he was. Writing his name in the sand. Laughing and playing with his friends Bella and Noah. He caught my eye and off he ran up into the sand dunes. The sun set and I photographed his name. He will forever be playing on the beach.
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- Carly Dudley
Bereavement Jewellery
Sue is a woman from Queensland Australia who creates beautiful hand made pieces of jewellery for bereaved parents. Some of the pieces she makes are able to hold a small portion of your childs ashes so that you are able to hold them close to your heart always.
Pregnancy after loss - A diary.
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The week I fell pregnant with her I saw dolphins on three different evenings at Christian's beach. I had never seen them there before and I have not seen them since then. I believe that they were a sign that something beautiful was just on the horizon... And so that is why we named her Ocea. The little girl of the sea.
Whispered Support
.. A place where bereaved parents from all over the world have come together to share there thoughts and ideas to help you get through the time surrounding the death of your child.
International Babylost Mothers Day
United in grief, we find love and strength.
IBMD recognizes babylost women all over the world as mothers. Just because a woman loses her first baby does not mean that she is not a mother anymore. She will be a mother for the rest of her life.
IBMD is a day for love, peace, remembrance and recognition.
IBMD Send Her A Flower
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Send her a flower to let her know she is still a beautiful mother.
Visit Rory's Garden
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A place where children's names bloom with beautiful flowers.
Art from bereaved parents.
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12 comments:
the first group site i found was the "dead baby club" which led me here (when it was the secret garden) and then i found the stirrup queen's blog roll..... these led me to the many mom's whose blogs i follow and i'm always finding new ones.
i also love "pray date" and i just found "butterfly mommies"! i'm not sure how to post links but every button that im able to locate i post to my own blog so that others can then find them if they haven't already.
thanks carly for providing a place where we can find each other and talk! you are a blessing
One of the first websites I came across was the national site for Share and the local chapter of Share where I live. These sites helped me out and the people at Share gave me wonderful support.
http://www.nationalshare.org
http://sharesouthernvermont.blogspot.com
Another place that I found helpful was Whispered Support. It helped me to know what some things were I could do after we said goodbye to our babies.
http://whisperedsupport.blogspot.com
Other websites I found that brought me comfort were Lisa Leonard Designs, My Forever Child, and My Very Own Angel. Creating personalized jewelry and wearing it everyday with my baby’s names means so much to me. I also have a t-shirt from My Very Own Angel and I treasure it.
http://www.lisaleonardonline.com
http://www.myforeverchild.com
http://www.myveryownangel.org
A recent site that people may not know about is Child Loss Resources.
http://childlossresources.blogspot.com
There are SO many wonderful sites being created since I have started blogging. I love that people want to help.
Sadly, I'm not finding many moms like me or any sites that really speak to me or help me. I like coming here, but I don't feel like I fit in anywhere. Nothing personal - you ladies [and occasional gentlemen] are doing a great job and a wonderful thing for many people.
I second Glow in the Woods and Lost and Found.
Lisa - can I ask why you think you don't fit anywhere? I have "met" quite a few bloggers that have pretty unique circumstances, maybe I know someone that has walked in your shoes. I'd like to help if you want to share.
Lisa, I highly recommend visiting The Miss Foundation. It is completely free to sign up and all the forums are secure. Everybody's circumstance is different. None of us are the same but we do share one thing in common. Grief. You don't need to have a blog to find support out there.
I am sorry you feel as though you do not fit in. That is the last thing you want in this community.
Sending you love and peace,
Carly
Thanks for offering your help Biojen x
Thanks for your kind words, ladies.
I do have a blog - I've posted here before and this is my 3rd meeting. Sometimes Blogger doesn't like me and does funny things to my comments. Apologies for omitting my link earlier.
I'm in a bad spot in my head right now because I can't write about my reality at the House and it's building up. I work for the local school district and someone there did me the "favor" of sharing my blog with every employee in the district when Gabriel died. Of course, work is one of the places where I'm having the hardest time dealing with everything & everybody, so I really have to censor what I write on my blog. And that sucks, but the last thing we need now is for me to get Dooced. I shouldn't have to worry about doing the 'right' thing right now - I need to get rid of the pain and poison that I am being forced to keep inside. I'm at a point where I feel like nobody understands, nobody cares, and I'm in this alone. I know that's all part of what walking this path is about, but that doesn't make it any easier. I'm still standing, and that's all that matters right now.
Sorry for the x-long comment, but thanks for being here.
Arrrrgh! I am sorry your work has a hold of your blog and you. That is really awful. I know that a few people in my life read my blog and that makes me feel uneasy.
I hope you feel a breakthrough from the alone feeling soon Lisa.
You are always welcome here.
xxx
Oh, Lisa, I'm sorry. That is terrible. Have you thought about making a new anonymous blog and only sharing it on support sites? Your co-workers would never have to know. You could taper off your old one or just say you don't have much to say anymore. Just an idea, I hope you find the support you need.
Thanks Carly & biojen. :-)
One thing I have found to be helpful is to stay busy and, for lack of a better word, distracted. If you've visited the House, you'll see what I mean. I'm getting involved in a lot of things to celebrate Gabe's memory. It helps me feel a little better to be able to help someone else.
I'd like to invite you to read this post at my friend Loraine's blog:
http://thatwoman.wordpress.com/2010/04/07/the-sisterhood/
Beautiful post Lisa. Raw, but beautiful x
Since September I haven't actually found any place I feel comfortable I joined an online support group and ended up having to leave it due to high school like drama. Honestly the only thing I've found comfort in is this blog, I started following back when it was the secret garden & then the blog Caring for Carleigh.
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